Washington Post Article "Mom: What Do I Expect from my Children's Elementary School? Certainly Not This"

A friend recently shared the following Washington Post article via Facebook, and it made me feel so thankful for our Ruffing Montessori school.  Fortunately, we live in an area with wonderful public, parochial, and private schools.  We have many GOOD options for education in our neighborhood.  Had we not fallen into the lap of Ruffing during our preschool search, I would gladly send my children to our public or parochial schools, as we know many families who are very happy attending them.  Although I hear the occasional gripe about the over-emphasis on standardized test scores, etc., these families rave about the teachers, extensive resources, personal attention, and quality academic curricula.  Sometimes, I even wonder whether we are missing out on some aspects of our other local schools as we hear THAT much great feedback.  Therefore, I (hope) and suspect our friends who go to other local schools do not identify with the Mom in this article.

Yet, putting all of these great local schools aside, I have to say - I am so happy we discovered the unique opportunity to send our children to a Montessori school, not just for preschool, but for their elementary years as well.  I am not claiming that only a Montessori school can foster a true love for learning, as I know this is possible in other school formats.  I know this because I have lived through them.  But after reading this article, it it evident that many schools simply do not foster this love for learning, and that is so disheartening.  I am sad for the children who get off the bus "exhausted...frustrated...overworked...burned out."  I feel equally disappointed for the teachers who are "trying to inject as much fun into the day as possible, but are obligated to keep up with deadlines, adhere to the curriculum, and meet the standards."

I truly do not know the right answers to resolve this issue.  I cannot even imagine the mountain our educational task force must climb. But, I hope for the sake of our country, our schools can develop a better understanding of what makes kids tick. As Goodman states, "I am clever enough to know that if (the kids) are enjoying themselves at school, they will learn. Academics follow naturally if the proper environment for learning is there."

I shared this article with my children's teachers and administration.  I hope they know how thankful we are as parents, to NOT identify with the issues in this article.  In contrast to the environment described, our teachers encourage a love for learning through hands on lessons, collaboration, physical movement, innovation, problem solving, creative thinking, exploration, while emphasizing the importance of social responsibility, respect for others, and community.  Without further ramblings, I have shared this well-written and insightful (yet alarming) article below.


https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/answer-sheet/wp/2016/01/05/mom-what-do-i-expect-from-my-childrens-elementary-school-certainly-not-this/

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Mom: What do I expect from my children’s elementary school? Certainly not this.

By Valerie Strauss January 5, 2016

Laura Eberhart Goodman is a former classroom teacher and writer on “The Synapse” on Medium. Her work has been published on the You Share Project and in the upcoming IAGC (Illinois Association for Gifted Children) annual journal. You can find her musings on the value of creativity, unstructured play, and the importance of preserving childhood on her blog, Boilsdown.com, where this piece appeared. She was raised on a farm north of Baltimore and lives in Richmond with her husband and two children. In this post, she writes about her concerns about the experiences her children are having at elementary school. It’s not what she had hoped for or expected.

By Laura Eberhart Goodman

When I put my children on the bus in the morning, the wish I call out to them after kissing their heads is, “Have a good day!” Pure and simple.

Now, I know that not every day can be a birthday party, and not all things in life should be made into a fun activity. My wish is not overly naive or idealistic, it is simply that they enjoy their day at school. It is my hope that even if there are moments of the day when things don’t go well, or times when they are frustrated, or they find something to be particularly challenging, the overall feeling when they return home is not negative.

I want them to have had enough positive experiences, enough moments of engagement, enough creativity and fun built into their day that “good” is the predominant mood descriptor.

That is not currently the case.

The children that I get off of the bus are exhausted. They are frustrated. They are overworked. They are burned out. I feel as if I should make them a weak whiskey on the rocks, hand them their pipe and slippers and leave them alone for an hour to decompress.

It takes them a bit of time before they can think of something positive to tell me, and usually it ends up being something that happened during recess or lunch. I would blame the teachers for this bleak attitude, but I was one, and I know that the teachers are just as tired, frustrated and overworked. Their teachers are trying to inject as much fun into the day as possible, but are obligated to keep up with deadlines, adhere to the curriculum and meet the standards. No, this pressure is coming from high above. And it is squishing my children with its weight.

For my elementary ­school­ age children, I care more about whether or not they love going to school than I do about their academic progress. I am clever enough to know that if they are enjoying themselves at school, they will learn. Academics follow naturally if the proper environment for learning is there.

From a parental perspective, a good learning environment is one with positive energy. The teachers want to be there, and the children want to be there. No one is counting the minutes to the end of the day before it has even started.

From an educator’s perspective, an environment that is engaging, hands­ on, with opportunities for meaningful learning, practice, discussions and creativity, makes kids happy. When kids are happy, they learn more, and without having to resort to bribery. It’s not rocket science.

When the learning environment becomes very serious and relies heavily on assessment and grades, learning targets and goals, it is not as enjoyable. It is “work,” and children don’t enjoy work. It’s not in their nature to enjoy work; children are created to learn through play.

You will have as much success asking a tiger not to have stripes as you will asking children not to play. I was watching two children at the post office the other day waiting to get passports, and they had been there for quite a long time. They developed a game using one of their jackets and entertained themselves nicely with it. It is as natural as breathing for children to play. What defines “play?” Any activity that engages the imagination and creativity, two skills that lead to innovation and problem solving when practiced often enough.

We can’t expect them to do work in the same way that an adult does work. We are not the same. They don’t have to pay a mortgage, and I get to stay up as late as I want to. One is not better or worse than the other; they are different.

Just because students may have to sit in an office for eight hours a day when they are adults, doesn’t mean that they should have to start practicing it now as children. It is like saying to a 10­year­old, “One day you’re going to pay taxes, so I’m going to keep 50 percent of your birthday money from Grandma because I want you to get used to it.”

There’s a proper time for everything.

Why has elementary school become the time for instructional and assessment methods that are more appropriate for high school and college students?

We aren’t expecting 8­ and 9­year­olds to vote in the next election, or pay their own car insurance, or stay out late with a boy that we hate, so why are we expecting them to sit for six to seven hours a day and do paperwork? Why are we expecting them to be able to concentrate for hours at a time to take multiple ­choice tests? It’s not the right time for that. They aren’t ready, and they shouldn’t have to be ready.

School systems can’t say they are raising the standards, then force elementary school students to perform like high school students in their work. The amount of testing and assessment in elementary school is at a level that is not appropriate until students are more mature.

There are gigantic gaps in elementary education when the emphasis on academics is pushed down to the lower grades. Young children need time to develop skills that are a crucial part of the foundation of a solid education, and that time has been taken away. You’re educating children to know the life cycle of a plant in the first grade, when they haven’t learned how to tie their shoes or button their own pants after using the restroom. Maybe the focus should be on teaching them how to learn instead of on what to learn.

You want to know what’s wrong with your kindergartner who can’t sit still?

Probably nothing.

He’s in kindergarten and he’s not supposed to sit still for six hours a day. It would be weird if he did.

You want to know what’s wrong with your third­ grader who can’t focus on her work?

Probably nothing.

She’s bored and under­-stimulated because instead of learning through play and exploration, she’s reading nonfiction passages without pictures and writing convincing five ­paragraph essays about them.

It’s backwards logic that is being hailed as the solution to low test scores. Forcing more and more curricula on students at a younger age and a faster pace doesn’t make them better students. It doesn’t teach them skills. It gives them a shallow pool of non­relevant information that they may not remember past the test and don’t know how to apply in real life.

It does do one thing well; it weeds out the “academically successful” students from the “non­academically successful” students really quickly. Is that the goal?

Standards ­based learning and “rigorous” testing are not going to be successful in elementary school, unless your goal is to get children to hate education at a very early age.

Elementary school should be about exploration and exposure to vast amounts of very well­ written books. Writing should be an opportunity to capture observations and imagination in a tangible form. Elementary education should include learning about history through storytelling, art and music. It should be about dancing and singing and playing while developing social skills, communication skills and interpersonal awareness.

Elementary school science should be about questions and wonders, experiments and all things messy. Math should be taught as part of nature and daily life, and if it were introduced that way, children would not be afraid of it when the numbers show up. There should be no limit to the topics that can be explored in elementary school. It should be about how to become a learner … not about curriculum, and definitely not about testing.

We should be setting children up for academic success when they are of the age to truly achieve it, instead of expecting them to accomplish it when they are entirely too young and then being shocked and outraged when they fail.

I want a school where both of my children, two vastly different learners with different strengths, want to go to learn. I want a school where creativity is cherished, and there is ample time for thinking, connecting, discussing and enjoying what they’ve learned. I want a school where the question isn’t “What did you get on the test?” but “What did you do with what you learned?”

Above all, when I see their sweet little faces get off of the bus, and I ask them how their day was, I want to hear, “My day was great!”